Psychopath Free (Expanded Edition): Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People Paperback – Illustrated, 1 Sept. 2015

Recovery begins with nailing what your abuser is, especially when he is a psychopath and this book will help you see that, if indeed your abuser is one. Everything in this book is bang on. It will hurt in parts but it will name what you are dealing with, validate your experiences (when likely no one close to you personally can), and it will show you you had no chance against this twisted mind, so stop beating yourself up about where you went wrong.I became the victim of a psychopath in 2010. I was one of the ones who smelled a rather toxic rat and broke things off. Sure enough, 3 years and counting I am still being stalked, terrorised, harrassed, my car is vandalised (resulting in massive car crash through an electricity pylon which I am lucky to survive), my movements constantly monitored on and offline. Yes I agree with this book my stalker took turns to drive me to suicide or provoke/goad me to get back in touch with him (this wasn't because he wanted me to come back to him. He was setting me up as all psychopaths do. He was desperate to tell me he was married now and really really really happy.My psychopath is a callous sadistic stalker, voyeur, pervert and major criminal who enjoys his freedom when he should most certainly be in prison. He is a very dangerous man wrapped up in a bumbling english country gentleman persona, 'what me, why I couldn't even hurt a fly'. He will not only hurt a fly but you, your friends and even your children if it frightens you. His persona is drivel but it is a persona that fools a lot of people. I am paying a high price for sussing him out. This psychopath has done everything, just short of murdering me ( I hope I do not speak too prophetically) though he has goaded me to kill myself and as I say tampered with my car which many times could have resulted in my death.This book covers all of this. This is what psychopaths do and they don't just do it to you. If you are persecuted by them it's because you are stronger than them. In a way it's a compliment. They can't ever have the women they really want because the women they really want will always suss them out so they they have to settle and when they settle and feel entirely unsatisfied in their 'settled' relationship, they boil with anger inside and take it out on the women they couldn't have/keep. YOU!THIS BOOK IS ESSENTIAL READING to begin the process of stopping your mind going over and over and over and over again why it's your fault. What on earth did you do? You must have treated him very badly indeed. You must be a very bad person to attract such awfulness into your life. If only you knew what you had done so you could fix it. Read this book. Forget fixing a monster and concentrate on fixing yourself. Get some validation. No one else except other victims can give you that. So start by getting some from this book. You must firmly root in your mind that these people are inhuman. Inhuman. Completely and utterly inhuman to an extent you will find difficult to believe because you are so entirely human.I remember telling my psycho about a historical TV documentary I watched where scientists had performed cruel experiments on babies. The programme disturbed me and I described one of the dreadful experiments that was performed on a baby boy to my psycho stalker. Instead of being as disturbed as I was he laughed and began to act out how the baby must of looked during the experiment. My blood ran cold. I didn't understand back then what I was dealing with. I do now. A monster.If you are a victim of a psychopath take heart. Read this book over and over. Get some validation for your experiences. Be amazed at how precisely right it is in every way. And firmly root in your mind that they are inhuman. Stop endowing them with normal human qualities. They don't have any. This is what makes you better than them. No matter how it feels, no matter who they are, they are not better than you. Don't believe it when they stop at nothing to brainwash you into thinking that they are superior to you. They are not. They know they are not. That's why they have to work so hard convincing you you are worthless. TOXIC!!! Read this book. It might hurt a bit in parts, but in the end you'll just feel so validated when you do. Eventually you will stop thinking about them in ways that hurt you, you will start to get angry, then you will feel repulsed by them and then finally indifferent to them. I'm not entirely indifferent yet because i maintain a constant dialogue with the police because of the stalking but I am repulsed and certainly harbour not a shred of warm feeling for him, no matter how rosy it seemed at times in the past. Thank god.The bits about this book I suggest heeding most are the bits about looking after yourself. Treat yourself kindly. Look after yourself mentally, physically spiritually and really do apply the rules of no contact which are most vital. I wish I had had more strength during the worst times.This has without doubt been the worst period of my life and it has spoiled a substantial portion of my children's young life too. I don't know how I would have coped had I not found resources such as this book to illuminate the minds of these heinous people terrorists.

I read many books about narcissistic personality disorder, borderline, emotional vampires, manipulators, etc and I must say this is the one that I found the most helpful of all of them, because the advice that is given really works (at least for me). I struggled for many years with the crazy making ex-wife of my husband who I would have no problem whatsoever to eradicate out of my life, but I can't because I have to co-parent my stepchild with this person. Needless to say that this person poisoned my life and my relationship with my hubby and stepchild from day one I entered into relationship with them....and the story is still going on.First of all, I wouldn't agree with other reviews that this book addresses mainly women in a relationship with a psychopath male. Many of the issues described in the book are spot on in my case dealing with a female borderline or narcissist.... I have also seen female narcissists at work operating in pretty much the same way.The main difficulty for me over the years, apart from not being able to simply cut this person out of my life, was that I couldn't understand why and how this person drove me angry and jealous to almost insanity level. I had never met anyone before who made me feel that way and it left me feeling very powerless. I come myself from a family line of narcissists and co-dependents and I also have a certain degree of psychoanalytical training, hence I tried to approach this problem from a transference-counter-transference angle: what is it in me that makes me react so badly to this woman, what are the inner wounds and /or dark spots in me that I need to bring to light, what do I project into this woman that makes me feel so bad, which of my unconscious complexes has been touched..... and so on.Now that I read this book I finally realised that during all these years I followed a complete wrong track by trying to analyse me, her, my childhood, my parents, god knows what... because the answer to this is simple: the woman is a psychopath who cannot stand anyone who is nicer, prettier, more popular, a better mother, happier, a more integer person, a "you name it what" than her… and because she has no control over me and my life and the love my husband and stepchild feel for me, she just tries to erode any of these features of mine by manipulating me into thinking and feeling way less of myself than I really am. When I read the chapter about the "manufactured emotions" in the book, all became clear. I realised that this woman would just drive any sane, caring and sensitive person insane. And all the feelings that I had (at times I felt like killing her) were feelings that had nothing to do with me, but that these were feelings that I had been simply been manipulated into feeling. I experienced all these nasty things exactly because this woman WANTED me to feel them!! This was a real revelation to me. Now I have a very good tool at hand to protect me for any future manoeuvres from her side - every time one of these old feelings tries to creep up I just tell myself "watch out - manifactured emotion is showing up on the horizon. Discard!"....and my problem is solved. I am so grateful that I found this book.... there are many more good points and techniques in it, like "the Constant" and others…. Definitely helpful and enlightening.