The Covert Narcissist: Recognizing the Most Dangerous Subtle Form of Narcissism and Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships Paperback – November 22, 2019

I absolutely loved this book and the explanation of Covert Narcissist this book was incredible and very informative, educational, and the ending so powerful as well as inspirational. Thank you so much for writing the book for people and most importantly victims/survivors.

Dr. Theresa J. Covert has written an intriguing book about how covert narcissists get under the radar and give you what you want so you are easily fooled. The emotional detachment later in the relationship is very chilling! As is the silent treatment.Some of the questions this book answers include:Why am I letting the narcissist isolate me?What are the red flags to watch for early in the relationship?Why should you understand the three stages of a relationship with a narcissist?What are the effects of narcissistic abuse?What happens when your suppressed anger comes to the surface after you realize the full situation?This book will teach you some things that other books on narcissism don't cover because this is about covert, not overt narcissism, except there are some overlaps.The end of the book is a compassionate look at recovery and there are some useful tips on dealing with narcissists you can't fully get away from no matter how much you wish you could!This book has been edited and is extremely well written in a friendly style. It also feels comforting to read because you will feel the author may have firsthand experience. She talks about narcissism from the viewpoint of a survivor! At least I think she has at least talked to people who have survived and moved on with their lives.Please consult with a professional if you have any questions or concerns. I am not a doctor, nor is this a review by a psychologist. This review is not medical advice.~The Rebecca Review

My husband's ex-wife recommended this book to me when my husband began the "discarding" phase with me. It happened all of a sudden and he would pick fights, blame me, and disappear for days/weeks on end only to return when I begged him and apologized for things I didn't do. I was a complete wreck, unable to eat, unable to function. I found out that he found a new source of energy in another woman. He said it was just a flirt and said that I was crazy for accusing him. He told his friends and family that I was an "unstable drunk" and this book helped me understand that he was projecting and gaslighting me. I have started the divorce process and this book gave me the tools to know that I am unable to change him and that I am making the right decision leaving him. This book is a valuable resource in navigating your way through a covert narcissist's mind and understanding their sickness so that one can begin to heal.

It was necessary for me to leave my marriage because my wife started treating me badly, presumably at the behest of her son who has all of the textbook characteristics of a covert . He demanded to be treated as a parent figure to me, and my wife enabled this to avoid damaging his ego. He also apparently wanted her as his surrogate spouse. The resulting dynamics, enabled her, whenever he was present, to take on the role of a co-parent. I eventually found this to be too humiliating. She evidently liked the dynamic because it shifted our power dynamic in her favor. She is apparently her son’s main source of supply, and he has apparently used an unverifiable and potentially fatal illness to suck his mother in. She subsequently developed a verifiable illness and probably exaggerated its severity in order to duck me in. My wife is a therapist and understands that her son’s behaviors are unhealthy and probably the result of childhood trauma. She herself probably experienced childhood trauma. I eventually left after 20 years because she increasingly invalidated my healthy needs and gave his unhealthy needs a higher priority. I don’t feel that a was severely abused, and my less severe abuse certainly did not follow the classic profile. 16 months after our separation I feel as though I am sufficiently healed to seek a new partner, and am actively doing this.I would like to improve your work by sharing more details of my experience. If you post a comment which includes contact information I will attempt to contact you.