The Completion Process

I feel this is one of the most important books I have ever read in my life. This book shows the importance of deeply accepting and embracing yourself, just the way you are--emotional pain and all. I spent well over a decade in deep depression, feeling dead and numb inside. Yet I deeply desired to find the cause of my brokenness and find healing. I took the mystical path, and spent years meditating and doing other complimentary spiritual practices. I studied and practiced teachings that explain how important it is to not resist your pain; to allow it to be, and experience it deeply. However, I was not able to do it. When other teachings said to be present with my pain, I took that to mean I should simply be there with it and tolerate it. But that is not enough. The wounded places in yourself are not looking to be merely tolerated. They are looking for love.This book takes a deep, loving approach. In it we find that we need not search for healing, because by believing we need healing, we continue to tell ourselves that something is wrong with us the way we are. This only causes more pain and deepens the wounds. What we are really searching for is wholeness. We give not only our full attention to the pain within us: we give our hearts to the pain. Emotional and psychological pain is not some inanimate thing that we should get rid of. The pain within us is wounded aspects of ourselves that are crying out for love and attention. And so we must give that loving attention to ourselves. By giving loving attention to the broken aspects of ourselves, instead of suppressing the pain, we introduce and integrate them back into our conscious selves, thereby becoming whole. We must always do this when we are in pain, no matter how long it takes or how many times we must allow and embrace inner turmoil. As the author puts it, most humans are fair-weather friends to themselves. They are open to themselves and all their feelings completely when things seem to be going well, and when they feel good. But when they feel bad, they are resistant to those feelings and always avoiding themselves, via things like addictions, etc. So we are learning to no longer be fair-weather friends to ourselves, but to be completely open and accepting of ourselves unconditionally. With this as our foundation we can successfully do the completion process.The completion process is an active imagination process that facilitates going deeper into the places in ourselves that have experienced trauma, and providing validation and comfort to your wounded inner child. In this process you meet your needs in any way that is necessary, and encounter profound emotional relief. The process gives opportunities for suppressed memories to arise and be dealt with as well. When encountering old traumas within, you can give the opportunity for old memories to come up if needed, and then work with them further. If no memories come up, you can simply validate the experience you are having and practice what the author calls "emotional vipassana." She explains that these initial steps of the process--validation and emotional vipassana--alone are enough to experience reintegration. I personally find myself not being flooded with a lot of memories when I do this practice, but these basic methods still stand when dealing with trauma and pain. I can validate my experience, give broken parts of me an opportunity to fully express themselves and be fully experienced and felt. I can be there unconditionally for these feelings, and in that way meet my own needs. This is the heart of the practice, and this is what each step of it is about.The process is eighteen steps long, which may seem intimidating. However, as you absorb and become familiar with the steps, you will see that they really do flow together naturally. So although the author has broken it down into these eighteen steps, it is actually seamless and simple.The book explains in depth how the subconscious works, and how life events and other occurrences act as triggers for suppressed pain. It explains how we can come fully into an intimate relationship with ourselves and prepares us to go deeply into our inner world. And when we think we have gone deep, the book explains how to go deeper still! We come out feeling whole, more alive, more compassionate and loving toward others, more excited about life, and most importantly, more loving and compassionate toward ourselves.The reading of this book has effectively ended the years of fear I carried--fear of myself. I spent years constantly suppressing and running from the pain within me, and it only grew worse and worse. This book gave me the gift of reconciliation. I am no longer afraid of my feelings; no longer afraid of myself. I feel more and more whole every daily. I am so thankful!I have noticed that there is a lot of criticism about the author that goes on in the spiritual community. But whatever has gone on in her personal life is none of my business.The information in this book is truly liberating. Every word rings true, and clearly flows from a place of deep spiritual insight. It is about self-empowerment! It is about self love, and true healing, which is wholeness! This book is amazing. Accept yourself deeply, just the way you are. Then do an act of self-love, and read this book!

I am so excited this book is finally available, I've been waiting for it for weeks! I couldn't wait to read it, and I must say, it's brilliant!I love how the author explains in logical progression the elements involved in trauma, so that we can understand, and apply this process in our lives. She took the time to explain all the terms she uses, and gives relevant examples to ensure that we are clear about what's going on in our lives, and how we can trace it back to our childhood.Everything in this book makes perfect sense, and I can see how the information provided applies in my life. I can now understand how trauma really works, and why I'm experiencing the reality I am. It's a relief to put the pieces together of the different things, circumstances, relationships in my life and see how they fit together - and for me personally it's amazing and alleviating to understand WHY things are the way they are, and how they got to be this way.I've always felt like this (understanding the WHY and the HOW things work) is a critical piece to healing and moving forward, so I am very grateful that the author took the time to explain all of it in this book.I absolutely loved when she wrote: "These people grow up to believe that there’s something wrong with them because they “shouldn’t feel how they feel”; in actuality, they should feel exactly how they feel." I am starting to see the reality, and the importance of acknowledging this - we spend so much time trying to deny or ignore our feelings because we feel we should feel differently, or be in a different (mental) place, or behave differently, or be different all together.I believe this book is revolutionary in the understanding of how things in our environment work and of how our human minds work! It is extremely useful and I would say - it's a manual for understanding ourselves, and for learning to be fully present with ourselves in our lives so we can fully enjoy ourselves and our lives.I highly recommend it to anyone who wants to understand who they now are, the reality they are experiencing (and how trauma is affecting it), and to fully embrace themselves so that they can integrate and be who they really are!

Consiglio la lettura.È un libricino piccolo ma potente.Scritto in inglese elementare, di facile comprensione.Tuttavia peccato non vi sia una versione in italiano, da regalare a chi non conosce la lingua.Ne avrei comprate molte più copie.Leggetelo.Non sto qua a spiegare il perché o il per come.Non pensarci su due volte, compralo subito.

its really good! trust me, youll come back to it again and again whenever in distress

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Aunque ciertamente esto no afecta en nada si contendido. El libro es muy bueno, muy rico en recursos, información, no es un relato para llegar a algo y desde la página uno entrar en un viaje de auto exploración y sobre todo entendimiento.