Connecting Through "Yes!": How to Agree When You Don't Agree to Get Cooperation and Closeness in Your Marriage

This, and all of Coach Jack's books are a must read for anyone who wants to stay married but has lost all hope, or who is considering marriage. Hope can be defined as believing you have both the will and the way (means and ability) to accomplish your goals. Will alone is not enough. One must believe he/she has the ability. I had no idea how to make my marriage better, and not for lack of trying.My wife an I have been married 23 years and have seen half a dozen marriage counselors and read numerous books during that time. I still didn't not know WHAT to do. Jack show's one exactly what to do, and it works and works fast. For example, my wife was a chronic complainer and nagger. It was driving me nuts and keeping us disconnected. After applying Jack's techniques to stop complaining and nagging it took 2 to 3 days before my wife stopped, and it's been 3 weeks since I've been nagged or heard a complaint. And that is in the midst of abnormally stressful events going on within our family. I've been suffering with this for the better part of 23 years, and it took at most 3 days to cure.I've given Jacks's books to my siblings, parents, children and wife. I WANT them to use the techniques on me to help me be a better husband and father. My only regret is that I didn't know this information 23 years ago. It would have saved my wife, our kids, and I countless money and heartache and made those years so much more enjoyable and productive.I especially recommend Overcome Neediness and Get the Love You Want for anyone that is dating with the intent to find a marriage partner. Never before have I read a book that teaches dating and courting strategy to help one find the best partner while minimizing self destructive neediness.Thank you Coach Jack!

In your life, did you ever experience any issues in relationship or communications with other people, whether it is your spouse, parents, children, coworkers or friends? Does Dale Carnegie books and his concept mean anything to you? If your answer contains at least one "Yes", then you absolutely must read books of Dr. Jack Ito, and I will explain you why. If you only read Dr. Jack Ito books ‘How to Overcome Neediness’, and ‘Connecting through "Yes"’, you will become a new person. You will start gaining respect, comfort, confidence and love from everybody you are connected to. I'm blessed to discover Dr. Jack Ito works. His method of developing and rebuilding yourself is astonishing combination of power and simplicity, and can be compared by the impact and caliber, only to the methods of Dale Carnegie.After reading and rereading Dr. Jack Ito books, I feel myself a different person. I now feel equipped with the psychological and behavioral compass, which navigates me throughout the day, in every encounter with other people. In my layman terms, Dr. Jack Ito teaches us how to love and respect other people, while gaining love and respect from others reciprocally. His success formula presents a fundamental truth of human relations. All we need to do is read it, comprehend, and assimilate it. I hate to see anybody missing that golden opportunity. Dr. Jack Ito, thank you so much for your gift to all of us!Boris

AMAZING!!!!! Life changing.... I picked it up, skeptically, and could not put it down. My copy is dog-eared, torn, worn, and looks like a Harry Potter spellbook. This book is different than relationship books I have read in the past...it starts to work quickly, with no gimmicks, and including applications for how to use his lessons (and how to word responses with some helpful suggestions).I have spent my entire marriage arguing, and within 4 days was able to stop. I didn't just have the tools, I actually used them and the arguing stopped. Wow. Inner peace ensued. No one can function well with constant negativity and arguing at home. That's just surviving, not living! Read this book!!!!!! Commit to trying what coach jack suggests, and see if it can't help your relationships (not just at home, either...this goes for all interpersonal relationships)

This book was recommended to me by my daughter. She says it is saving her marriage and her sanity! She also says that this book would be Helpful in just living life and getting along with others. So if you have someone in your life that is driving you crazy! Read this book, It might help.

Good book for giving an alternative way of communicating. Good examples in the book on how to apply the technique. Lacks discussion on more complicated matters that tend to occur in marriage. Overall, interesting and works, for smaller issues. Would like more information on how to apply to other complexities of a relationship.

This book changed the way I looked at my situation and the way I will look at relationships. I was immediately drawn to the book as the author immediately described my separation and the time leading up to it, even though I was oblivious. This book should be read by couples going through a struggle and even more by couples in a good relationship. All relationships are work but the principles in this book will make your work more effective and will help produce more peace and satisfaction in even the best relationships.

Good book for those of us that make mistakes and try hard to improve ourselves. It has some excellent advice that is very applicable to all sorts of relationships, not just marriages. Got a problem boss, give this a read. Might not solve all your the problems but might give you a second chance, or at least some time to think of what the best course for the future is.

I'm currently reviewing books on positive psychology and positive communications, listening to them on my kindle. I found some really useful and practical ideas in this book. I'm developing new courses in psychology and coaching and I liked the positive tone of this book. One point the author made with regard to divorce was the inter-generational impact. Many people make decisions in their lives where everyone loses and better communication can save relationships or help construct new relationship that are loving.

One of the very best relationship books I have ever read! It really contains life changing tips on how to improve married life and not only. I have given this book to all my friends I know struggling with their relationships. Everybody says the same - its truly amazing!

OK but nowhere near as good as his other book

Spend little for this book, as a basic formula, making assumption that people respond in prescriptive ways.

Life and relationship changing, for the better, without question. But ONLY if you apply these principles.

This book has probably saved my marriage of 25 years - AFTER already hearing "I want a divorce". In one night, I devoured Coach Jack's website, a freebee on talking to your wife, and Connecting Through Yes. I started applying it the next morning and signed up for one of his coaching packages. My wife's words might be the best review, "The last two weeks it's like I've been living with a different person." The first of those two weeks was before my first coaching session so it was mainly based on the book.